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23 Oct
I need the expertise from all of you wonderful music educators!
A few of my students’ parents sit in during lessons. Most of these parents present no problem. However, a couple of them constantly are offering input, chastising their kids, etc. I know I need to somehow address the problem, and that couldn’t be more obvious to me now after what happened yesterday.
I worked on a piece with a beginner student during lesson. At the end of the lesson, I needed to run to another room to find a certain paper for this student. I told her to keep playing the piece while I was in the other room and I would be listening. When I came back, her parent was hovering over her, playing the piece for her! She was in tears! I didn’t know how to fix her tears and there wasn’t even any time because the next student was already there for lessons. It was an awful way to end a lesson.
I also know that some of the parents hover over their students during practice time at home, which is another problem I know I need to address.
Now, here is where I need your help. I am having a recital this Saturday. I thought I could hand out some sort of form addressing studio business and include some rules on parents sitting in during lessons and practice time. Do you have any fabulous suggestions for how I could word this so that offending parents won’t feel like they are being singled out and non-offending parents won’t feel like they are doing something wrong?
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I found this online and thought you could use it as a jumping off point.
http://vsmma.org/admissions/observation.htm
It is a guideline on how to observe following the Montessori model of observation.
Incorporated into my policies is this statement:
“No parents or siblings sitting in on classes or lessons. It is not that I don’t like company, but this can be distracting to the teacher and the students.” If you feel like you want to see first hand what is happening, please call and we can decide on a class time or lesson that you may attend.
I have never had a problem because they know up front.
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This might not be a permanent solution, but there’s a technique called “antiseptic bouncing” used in classrooms to remove troublesome students from an area temporarily. Basically, you send the kid on some sort of errand which will get him out of your hair for a few minutes. “Johnny, would you go ask the secretary for a light blue Sharpie?” And the secretary is in on it and knows that’s your code for “stall this kid, please!” Kind of like midwives telling husbands to “go boil a huge pot of water.”
Sure, it’s sneaky, but it can be effective if used sparingly!
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